Abstinence

Abstinence

Is a Healthy Choice

100% effective against risk of pregnancy and

sexually transmitted disease (if not having oral sex)

Abstinence doesn’t mean you can never have sex.

Abstinence means that you are not having sex for a certain amount of time.

If you have had sex in the past it doesn’t mean you can’t think about abstinence now or in the future.

Why do some people choice abstinence

-wait for a long term relationship

-avoid risk of pregnancy

-avoid sexually transmitted disease (STI’s are still possible with oral sex)

-want to develop a strong emotional relationship first

-avoid bad reputation

While you Wait

Choosing forms of sexual expression other than vaginal or anal intercourse is a great way to develop relationships. Emotional affection can be expressed in alternative ways.

-enjoying a walk

-a romantic dinner for 2

-go to the movies

-do things with other couples

-avoid drinking- it impairs your judgment- be the designated driver.

-picture your future- how would pregnancy or STI change that.

-hug and kiss- know where the limit is

Know Where The Limit Is

This is the hard part. Some activities could still result in pregnancy such as ejaculation near the vagina. STI’s can still be passed by skin-to-skin contact (herpes, warts, scabies) without an exchange of body fluids. Unprotected oral sex can put you at risk for STI’s including gonorrhea, chlamydia and herpes.

-expect to have sexual feelings and don’t feel bad about them

-plan ahead and give a clear message

-don’t let people talk you out of your choices

-hung around with people who share or respect your choice.

Practicing Abstinence

-define abstinence for yourself and what you want and don’t want, set your limit

-Talk to your partner before it gets hot and heavy

-Talk about what you want, don’t want and why. This will help them understand.

-Ask your partner what they want.

When abstinence Fails

You can prepare for being caught in the moment by carrying condoms and/or other birth control methods with you.

If pregnancy is a possibility you may consult a physician about the emergency contraception pill or visit a pharmacy. The pill should be taken within 72 hours of intercourse.

For more information go to: http://www.mylaurier.ca/health/info/sexual/emergency_contraception.htm

However, one slip doesn’t mean you can’t be abstinent in the future. Review your reasons and decide what you really want.